Father Figure Coaching

The Temple Builder Movement System

Three protocols, one framework: move with purpose, whatever equipment or season you're in.

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” — 1 Corinthians 6:19–20

This protocol exists to help you intentionally move your body throughout the day and week — not just through formal workouts, but by living actively and stewarding well the body God has entrusted to you. It is built around three categories of movement and one non-negotiable: every physical rhythm is paired with a spiritual one.

The Three Movement Categories
NEAT
Non-Exercise Activity Thermogenesis — all the movement outside formal exercise: walking, chores, standing, taking the stairs, pacing while you pray. This is the foundation. It compounds daily and asks nothing of a gym.
EAT
Exercise Activity Thermogenesis — planned, structured training: strength work, cardio, circuits, classes. This is where you build capacity, not just burn calories. Two to four sessions a week is the target range for most men.
MOBILITY
Flexibility, Joint Health & Recovery — stretching, foam rolling, breathwork, dynamic warm-ups, and rest. The category men over 40 skip first and need most. Neglecting it is how a good training plan turns into an injury.

The Weekly Movement Blueprint

The Spiritual Application column is not optional. It is what makes this a Temple Builder tool and not just another workout calendar. Fill in the tracking boxes as you go — this page is meant to be lived in, not laminated and ignored.

DayNEAT TargetEAT TargetMobilitySpiritual Application
MondayTake the stairs all day; 20-min walk after dinnerFull-body strength, 30–40 min5-min dynamic warm-up before trainingSet the tone. Read Colossians 3:17 before your first movement of the day.
Tuesday8,000+ steps; stand for phone callsRest or light cardio, 20–30 min10-min stretch before bedMove as an act of stewardship, not punishment. Pray through your walk.
WednesdayPark farther away; walking break at workFull-body strength or kettlebell circuit, 30–40 minFoam roll, 10 minMidweek check-in: is this rhythm rooted in shame or in joy?
Thursday8,000+ steps; house or yard work countsRest or chair yoga sessionBreathwork, 5 minPractice Sabbath rest inside the week. Recovery is obedience, not laziness.
FridayTake the stairs all day; 20-min walk after dinnerFull-body strength or conditioning, 30–40 min5-min dynamic warm-upFinish strong. Give thanks for what your body carried you through this week.
SaturdayActive outing with family — hike, yard, sportOptional — play, don’t just trainStretch after activityLet movement be shared. Invite someone into it — spouse, kids, a brother.
SundayGentle movement; walk before or after churchRestLong stretch or gentle yoga, 15 minWorship with your whole self. Isaiah 40:31 — wait on the Lord, renew your strength.

This is a template rhythm, not a rigid law. Adjust targets to your current capacity and coaching plan — the structure matters more than the exact numbers.


How to Use This Protocol

1. Start where you are. If NEAT is your only category with real numbers this week, that's a legitimate starting point. Add EAT once daily movement is consistent.

2. Track it, don't just intend it. Use the boxes above or a simple notes app. What gets written down gets repeated.

3. Let the Spiritual Application column lead, not trail. Read it before you move, not after.

4. Review weekly. Every Sunday, ask: did I steward my body well this week? Adjust next week's targets honestly.

5. Pair with your coaching track. This blueprint works alongside the Kettlebell Protocol or the Chair Yoga Protocol for your EAT and Mobility columns — use whichever fits your current season.


“Our bodies were designed to move, and movement, offered with intention and gratitude, is one of the most honest prayers we can pray.”


Weekly Reflection
God, thank You for my body and for the ability to move. Help me to honor this gift, not from shame or pressure, but from joy and worship. Teach me to move like a Temple Builder — gracefully, faithfully, and purposefully. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Each session builds physical wellness through stability, strength, and presence. No previous experience is required. You need only a sturdy chair and a few minutes each day. Each session weaves gentle poses with spiritual reflection, building stability, strength, presence, flexibility, openness, and peace.

Click the video links below each pose to watch a real demonstration on YouTube. Move at your own pace. Your practice belongs to you.

The Father Figure Framework

Stability

A firm foundation. Grounded feet and strong legs. The capacity to remain present when circumstances shift.

Strength

The capacity to carry weight and to serve. Real strength is quiet, reliable, and protective.

Presence

Being fully here, now, without distraction. The gift of your full attention.

Flexibility

The wisdom to bend without breaking. Adaptability in body and in mind.

Openness

A heart that stays open. Willingness to receive and to connect.

Peace

Calm in the midst of difficulty. Safety and rest in the nervous system.

The Six-Week Practice

Week One: Stability

Building a strong foundation in the feet and legs

Stability begins in the feet and legs. This week you build a foundation. When your legs are strong and your feet are grounded, your whole body settles into calm. Stability is not rigidity. It is the steadiness that lets you meet whatever the day brings.

Seated Mountain Pose

This is the foundation of all poses. Sit with your feet flat, hip-width apart. Press all four corners of your feet into the floor. Lengthen your spine. Imagine a cord pulling the crown of your head toward the ceiling. Your shoulders rest down. Feel the strength in your legs.

Watch a demonstration
Every seated pose in this protocol returns to this base position.

Chair Cat-Cow

Inhale, press your chest forward and look slightly up. Feel a gentle arch in your lower back. Exhale, round your spine and tuck your chin. These two movements warm the back and build spinal awareness. Repeat five times, moving with your breath.

Watch a demonstration
Let the breath lead the movement, not the other way around.

Seated Spinal Twist

Sit in Mountain Pose. Exhale and twist your torso to the right. Rest your left hand on your right knee. Let your right hand rest on the back of the chair. Do not force the twist. Breathe here for 30 seconds. Return to center and repeat on the left side.

Watch a demonstration
Seated spinal twists release tension and support digestion.

Seated Forward Fold

Hinge at your hips and let your torso fold forward. Let your arms hang. Do not strain to touch your toes. Breathe into your back body for one minute. This pose teaches surrender. Stability is not about control.

Watch a demonstration
Forward bending stretches the back body and creates release.

Close this week's practice seated in Mountain Pose. Notice your feet on the floor. Ask: where in my life do I need a firmer foundation this week?

Week Two: Strength

Building muscular endurance and capacity

Strength is the capacity to carry weight and to serve. This week you build muscular endurance in your core and upper body. Real strength is not harsh or aggressive. It is quiet, reliable, and protective. It allows you to show up for yourself and for others.

Shoulder Presses

Bend your elbows and raise your arms to shoulder height. Exhale and press your hands up toward the ceiling. Inhale and lower to shoulder height. Repeat ten times, keeping your shoulders relaxed away from your ears.

Watch a demonstration
Strength built here transfers directly to lifting and carrying at home.

Hands-Behind-Back Heart Opener

Sit tall and clasp your hands behind your lower back, or hold a towel between them if your hands do not meet. Draw your shoulder blades toward each other. Lift your chest. Hold for five breaths. This posture counters the forward hunch of daily life.

Watch a demonstration
An open chest supports an open, honest posture in every other area of life.

Seated Leg Extensions

Sit tall at the front edge of your chair. Extend your right leg straight out, foot flexed. Hold for three breaths, then lower with control. Repeat on the left. Alternate for ten repetitions per side to build strength through the quadriceps and core.

Watch a demonstration
Strong legs protect the knees and keep you steady on your feet as you age.

Close this week's practice with three slow breaths, hands resting on your chest. Ask: where has God asked me to carry weight for someone else this week?

Week Three: Presence

Returning attention to the here and now

Presence is being fully here, without one foot in yesterday and one in tomorrow. This week's poses move slowly and ask for your full attention. There is no rushing a stretch and being present at the same time.

Seated Neck Release

Sit tall. Let your right ear drop gently toward your right shoulder. Let the weight of your head do the work, without pulling. Hold for five slow breaths. Return to center and repeat on the left. Notice where your mind wanders, and gently bring it back.

Watch a demonstration
Tension in the neck often mirrors tension in the schedule.

Seated Breath Awareness

Rest one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Breathe in slowly through your nose for a count of four. Hold for a count of two. Exhale for a count of six. Repeat six times. This is the anchor practice of presence: attention on the breath, here, now.

Watch a demonstration
A longer exhale than inhale signals safety to the nervous system.

Seated Ear-to-Shoulder Stretch with Gaze

Repeat the neck release, and this time keep your eyes open and soft, resting on one fixed point in the room. Let sound and thought pass without following them. Presence is not the absence of distraction. It is the choice to return, again and again.

Watch a demonstration
A fixed gaze steadies the mind the way a fixed foundation steadies the body.

Close this week's practice in silence for one full minute. No pose, no counting. Ask: who in my life most needs my undivided attention this week?

Week Four: Flexibility

The wisdom to bend without breaking

Flexibility this week is physical and it is also a posture of the heart. Tight hips and tight hamstrings often carry the same rigidity that shows up in an unwillingness to bend on smaller matters. This week's poses ask your body, and your week, to loosen its grip.

Seated Hip Opener

Cross your right ankle over your left knee, forming a figure-four shape. Sit tall and gently lean forward until you feel a stretch through the right hip. Hold for five breaths. Switch sides. Keep the movement small and controlled.

Watch a demonstration
Tight hips are common after years of sitting. This pose reclaims that range slowly.

Seated Hamstring Stretch

Extend your right leg straight in front of you, heel on the floor, toes toward the ceiling. Hinge forward from your hips, keeping your spine long, until you feel a stretch along the back of the leg. Hold for five breaths, then switch sides.

Watch a demonstration
Flexible hamstrings protect the lower back during daily lifting and bending.

Seated Figure-Four Twist

From the hip opener position, add a gentle twist toward your crossed leg, placing your opposite hand on the outside of your knee. This combines the hip stretch with a spinal twist, deepening the release through the whole side body.

Watch a demonstration
Combining stretches builds efficiency into a short daily practice.

Close this week's practice seated quietly. Ask: where am I holding a position too rigidly, in my body or in a relationship?

Week Five: Openness

A heart that stays willing to receive and connect

Openness lives in the chest and the shoulders, and it lives in whether you let people close to you. This week's poses work the front body, undoing the protective curl that guards the heart, and invite a posture of welcome.

Chest-to-Thigh Pose

Fold forward from your hips and rest your chest gently toward your thighs, arms relaxed toward the floor. Let your head hang heavy. Breathe into your upper back. This pose asks you to soften and be held, rather than to perform.

Watch a demonstration
A softened body often precedes a softened heart.

Seated Heart Opener

Sit at the edge of your chair. Reach both arms behind you and hold the back of the seat, or interlace your fingers behind your back. Lift your chest toward the ceiling without straining your neck. Hold for five breaths.

Watch a demonstration
This is the same posture as standing to greet someone with open arms.

Eagle Arms

Cross your right arm over your left at the elbow, then wrap the forearms so palms face each other. Lift your elbows to shoulder height. Feel the stretch across your upper back. Hold for five breaths, then switch the cross of your arms.

Watch a demonstration
Releasing tension between the shoulder blades often releases tension in the chest.

Close this week's practice with a hand over your heart. Ask: is there someone I have kept at a distance who I am ready to let closer?

Week Six: Peace

Calm and rest in the nervous system

Peace is the fruit of the five weeks before it. You cannot force calm, but you can create the conditions for it. This final week is the slowest and the quietest, built to leave your body settled and your mind still.

Supported Restorative Pose

Sit back fully in your chair, feet flat, hands resting palms-up on your thighs. Let the chair hold your full weight. Close your eyes. Breathe naturally for two full minutes, releasing any part of your body still working to hold a position.

Watch a demonstration
Restorative poses ask the body to stop working, which is its own discipline.

Legs-Up-Chair Pose

If a second sturdy chair or ottoman is available, sit and rest your lower legs up on it, letting your feet relax. If not, extend your legs and prop your heels on a low surface. This gentle inversion supports circulation and settles the nervous system.

Watch a demonstration
This is often the most requested pose once men over 40 try it once.

Seated Meditation

Return to Seated Mountain Pose from Week One. Close your eyes. Rest your hands on your knees, palms up. Sit for two to five minutes, returning your attention to your breath each time it wanders. Close by opening your eyes slowly and offering the closing prayer below.

Watch a demonstration
The practice ends where it began: seated, grounded, and still.

God, thank You for this body and for the stillness it can hold. Teach me to move like a Temple Builder — gracefully, faithfully, and at peace. In Jesus' name, amen.

This is not a fitness program. It is a spiritual and physical framework, compressed into twenty minutes, three days a week. One kettlebell. No excuses about equipment or time. Every phase of this workout ties back to one of the seven pillars — because how you train your body and how you lead your home are not separate disciplines.

20Minutes
1Kettlebell
7Pillars
3xPer Week
The 20-Minute Flow
0:00 – 1:00

Opening — Who Is That Guy?

Pillar 1 · Mindset & Identity

Stand still before you pick up the bell. Ask yourself: who is the man I am training to become today? This is a mental reset, not a warm-up. One minute of breath and honesty before anything physical happens.

The workout starts in your identity, not in your hands.

1:00 – 3:00

Warm-Up

Pillars 2 & 3 · Accountability & Daily Habits

Bodyweight squats — 30 seconds. Arm circles — 30 seconds. Hip hinges, no weight — 30 seconds. Bell deadlift setup, empty reps — 30 seconds.

Simple, repeatable movements you will do three times a week. The warm-up is where the habit gets built, before the training gets hard.

Showing up for these two minutes is the accountability. Everything after this is momentum.

3:00 – 9:00

Block One — Kettlebell Deadlifts

Pillar 5 · Functional Movement

Feet hip-width apart, bell centered between them. Hinge at the hips, chest up, back flat. Grip the handle and drive through your heels to stand. Squeeze at the top. Lower with control. This is foundation strength for real life — lifting kids, lifting grandkids, lifting whatever the day sets in front of you.

6 minutes: work in sets of 10–12 reps, resting as needed, keeping form clean over reps fast.

You are not training for a stage. You are training for the moment someone needs you to be strong.

9:00 – 15:00

Block Two — Suitcase Carries

Pillar 5 · Functional Movement (continued)

Pick up the bell in one hand, like a suitcase. Stand tall, shoulders level, core braced against the pull to one side. Walk a slow, controlled distance — across a room or yard. Switch hands and return. This builds anti-rotation stability and the kind of strength that shows up carrying groceries, not just in the gym.

6 minutes: alternate hands every trip, resting between as needed.

Real strength is not what you can lift once. It is what you can carry, steadily, for as long as it takes.

15:00 – 18:00

Cool-Down

Pillar 6 · Rest & Recovery

Set the bell down. Slow forward fold, 30 seconds. Standing hip stretch, both sides. Deep breathing, hand on chest, hand on belly. This is where the adaptation actually happens — not during the lifting, but in the recovery after it.

Recovery is wisdom, not laziness. A man who never rests is not a man who is strong. He is a man heading toward a breakdown.

18:00 – 20:00

Closing — Hydrate and Reflect

Pillars 4 & 7 · Nutrition & Lifelong Vision

Drink water. Then sit or stand still for one minute and ask: what did today's twenty minutes build toward? Not toward a physique. Toward a legacy — the man your family will remember, the strength you will still have decades from now.

This workout is a twenty-minute declaration. You are not starting over. You are becoming the man you were meant to be — today, and every day after.

The Father Figure Protocol

Monday. Wednesday. Friday.
20 minutes. One kettlebell. Seven pillars.

In 14 days, you will feel it — your strength, your clarity, your presence with your family.
In 30 days, you will own it. This is who you are now.
In 6 months, your kids will see it — a father who leads, a man who has become.

This is not a fitness program. This is spiritual renewal. This is reclaiming your identity.